Understanding Behaviour as Communication
Joanne Jones 
Discover how to decode your child’s behaviour as a form of communication. Learn practical tips to respond with empathy and strengthen your connection
Understanding Behaviour as Communication
For children who struggle to express themselves with words, behaviour becomes their voice. Every action—whether it’s a tantrum, a gesture, or even silence—tells a story. In this blog, we’ll explore how you can learn to interpret your child’s behaviour as a form of communication and respond in ways that strengthen your connection.
- Behaviour is the First Language
Behaviours like crying, throwing objects, or refusing activities often indicate unmet needs.
Examples: A tantrum might mean “I’m frustrated,” or clinging might mean “I need comfort.”
- Decoding Behaviours
Observe patterns: When do behaviours happen, and what triggers them?
Ask yourself: What need is my child expressing? Connection, regulation, or understanding?
- Practical Tips for Parents
Pause before reacting to observe and empathise.
Narrate emotions: “I see you’re upset because it’s time to stop playing.”
Create a calm environment where your child feels safe to express themselves.
Understanding your child’s behaviour as communication is a journey, not a one-time fix. The more you listen and respond, the more you’ll uncover what your child is truly trying to say—and the stronger your bond will become.